What is motivation? Do you know what the dictionary says? Well, it couldn’t say better:”… providing with a reason to act in a certain way”. Let's see what he says about the reason: “...justification or explanation of a belief or action”; “the mental powers concerned with forming conclusions, judgments, or inferences”; “a basis or cause, as for some belief, action, fact, event".
From the logical point of view, our reason is also very “sophisticated”: “the premise of an argument”.
Philosophy: 1.”the faculty or power of acquiring intellectual knowledge, either by direct understanding of first principles or by argument.” 2. “the power of intelligent and dispassionate thought, or of conduct influenced by such thought.” I would emphasize here the word: “dispassionate”. Why dispassionate? Don't take it as something negative, it only means, the reason you are driven from lays on a solid foundation, not a one-time “high feeling”, but impartial and calm. Because you need to be calm to achieve anything, due to the fact, that weight loss or any fitness goal is achieved in time, after having “the habit” to act repeatedly in a certain way. Not a “one night stand” thing, but long lasting solid love towards your meals and workouts.
The reason, so it seems, is also a tricky thing. If you are driven by the wrong reason, you are again doomed to fail. But how can you know if you have the good reason or not? You will know if is powerful and solid enough to drive you along the very long way, and you’ll definitely know if you’ll fail shortly you started. It is a question of elimination. With some reasons, you will just fail. That, of course, doesn’t mean that you can never find the correct one. It just may take a while. For me, it took almost a decade. So, cheer up and keep trying!
We can differentiate two kinds of motivation:
1. A triggering motivation
2. Long run motivation
The triggering motivation is what will start the person wanting a slimmer body, a healthier life or whatever the person may desire.
The long run motivation is what will keep the person going not just throughout a few weeks or months but her or his whole life. The triggering looks somewhat easier than the latter but only looks like that. Why? Because it has to be strong enough to last till you get the taste, till you learn the game how to promote the healthy lifestyle for yourself all the time. You are not an advertising agency, although you have to act like one. You have to advertise the apple all the time against the chocolate. You have to be also like a politician from the opposition and always show the bad sides of the other party. Oh, my God, you would say, that sounds soooo complicated, but I tell you, it is not. You just have to find the way, and that takes some time. Now, you see, till you do that, the triggering motivation has to last! For example, a graduation reunion is not a strong triggering motivation. To get a new boyfriend also is a week one. In my other article, I’ll name some motivation ideas that worked for me.
We have a saying in Hungarian, that “the lasts eventually will become the firsts”. That is a very good one. Just like the tale of the rabbit and the turtle. (See the example of the persons with 10 and 2 pounds extra weight from the article: “What do you need for a body transformation?”)
You have to think, that what you really need to feed the whole day with big amounts is not your stomach, but your motivation. The motivation, especially at the beginning, is like a black hole. You just throw in, the best-looking athletes, fitness models, your osteoarthritis (which you gained from the extra weight putting too much pressure on your knees, for instance…) and when you think that it was enough, it will crave for more, or, as a sissy lady, it will get upset and won’t talk to you for a while and that will have very bad consequences on your behind, for example, …resulting in some “delicious” muffin tops on your lateral extremities…as the other example. You know the area, I believe…
So, you can’t afford your motivation to get bored, or upset. You have to treat her like a queen because you will benefit of that. And what is to remember, don’t ever think that it is enough. You think, last night, you looked at some beautiful fitness models, and the other day, let’s say you ate properly and had a good workout, maybe also a little cardio in the evening…the other day you worked out, ate right again…Don’t think that it is enough. Believe me, it is not so important to necessarily work out or do cardio or something every single day. It is far more important to motivate yourself every single day. Even when you feel that you are ok, you are on the right track, let’s say, since a month. Do never ever fall into this trap. Read something about health. Even if you don't have the spirit for it. Read how important is for your joints to carry as less weight as possible. Read fitness magazines. Look at a documentary about Bruce Lee’s life. I made the mistake many times, I kept up with a good meal plan, exercise for about 4 months, and then due to a workplace change, colleagues, that made me miserable, a load of stress, I was able to put 13 kg (about 28 pounds) on myself in less than two months. What was my mistake? That I became just too confident. Self-confidence is good and you need for everything in life, no matter what you want to do, but staying always realistic is just as important. If you don’t recognize your weaknesses you will not work on finding solutions making eventually strength from it.