We've all been there. We had a big fight and after it, “passion” seems to suddenly take over and we have sex. After having sex everything looks fine again. So it just seems a logical solution to use it as a “peace-pipe”, as a tool to make things good again. But should we? As long as it works, right? The truth is that what you actually experience as a reconciliation and "return to previous good stage" is nothing but a “let's sweep the dirt under the carpet” kind of solution. And what actually happens when you keep sweeping the dirt under your carpet for months or even years? Maybe your house will look tidy but sure it will stink as hell. And the poor carpet... let's don't' get that deep in that right now...

 Exactly that is what happens when you use sex as a makeup for a quarrel. You are not angry afterward because sex is a pretty exhausting activity for the body as for the mind and you are overwhelmed at the moment. Like a person who from the adrenaline doesn't feel that he or she is wounded for a short while, but that doesn't mean she can not bleed to death if untreated...

 The conclusion is, however handy tool it may seem, sex as a reconciliation tool it is not optimal. If you had a problem and it was not discussed, apologies have not been said, the rubbing of your sex organs together won't make up for the fault. As long as you do not want your relationship to start stinking after a while things must be discussed. So, try to use your mouth and tongue for the purpose of talking instead. The result may not be that spectacular but the long term benefit will surely be greater.